I'm in the midst of searching for a job; something I hadn't intended on
writing about here this time around. Last time I was RIF'd I spent a
lot of time writing about different aspects of the career tool kit
and having fun with it, and learning a lot (and sharing that with other
job seekers). Been there, done that. But I've noticed a disturbing
trend this time around.
I was looking over some of my LinkedIn groups this week, and on a Instructional Designer group the question of the how to increase post training evaluation participation (as well as their value) was being discussed. I happen to be a big proponent of post-training evaluations, both as learner and someone who has developed and delivered training, so of course I chimed in.
My Blackberry is dying. It keeps throwing errors and requiring a battery pull to function; my research shows that similar errors indicate software or general phone failure. So I've been looking into getting a new smart phone.
Remember these? I got one back when they were the darling of early adopters and Wired magazine when they were first released. If you aren't familiar with them, they scanned specialized barcodes in magazines and such to allow people to get more information. They ended up being a spectacular failure, as the :Cue Cat had to be plugged in to your computer to work, and later licensing, security, and privacy controversies. 
Remember the film, The Blind Side, the one that earned Sandra Bullock many accolades and an Oscar? The man whose story inspired the film, Michael Oher, has written a book (with the help of Don Yaegar) to set his story straight called I Beat the Odds: From Homelessness, to The Blind Side, and Beyond. It’s a provocative and interesting read, a reminder about not just the importance of support, but a how-to book for those kids in similar circumstances who want to better themselves, and those who want to help them.
Stories like The Blind Side make many uncomfortable because it’s another poor brown kid makes good only with the help of rich white intervention compounded by a legitimate issue with leniency towards athletes. If you remember the film, Oher had a tutor help him meet NCAA academic eligibility; what’s not included in the film is the fact he took some online courses to replace some of his earlier academic failures, which has been a source of controversy, and a sorepoint for Oher. But summing up the story of Oher and Touhys in a tweet-length soundbite is as grossly misrepresentative as assuming Oher skated by academically because of nepotism and exploitation. It’s a lot like the hot coffee lawsuit story; reduced to snarky snippets, a story reads one way, when in fact the whole story is completely different.
Oher never lacked ambition to improve himself, only in practical skills and examples to follow, along with the support and security vital to achieving his goals. Once he had those, and didn’t have to worry about keeping a roof over his head or where he’d get his next meal, he flourished. Detractors who cry foul at the fact he was able to make up for past academic failures are missing the point; penalizing anyone instead of rewarding them for all their hardwork not only hurts them, but anyone else who aspires to better themselves. If no one can escape their past mistakes -- especially ones made by a child whose essentially had no real life role models until he was a teenager, then no one can, and that's just wrong.
Shortly after I started middle school, my social studies teacher declared in class (apropos to nothing) that children whose parents divorce were “damaged goods” and going to be criminals and worse, prone to mental illness and suicide. I was shocked and highly offended that this man whose job was to shape the minds of children so brazenly condemned so many of us for something beyond our control. In his eyes, I might as well not bother aspiring to anything. More than 30 years later, I remember can recall that moment vividly. Even though I was never in the foster-care system, I can relate to Oher’s background (more than I’m comfortable in admitting), and being so callously dismissed at such a young age has stayed with me. I would never presume to know exactly what Oher has overcome, but knowing how hard it is not to internalize the words and actions of the adults around you as a child, makes me appreciate his achievements, and just how important it is for a child to have positive reinforcement.
The old saying that a burden shared is a burden lessened is epitomized by Oher; once he was secure in knowing he had people like the Touhys (and many others before and after), his burdens were lessened, and obstacles to success were removed. Yes, he had a private tutor, and yes, he was allowed to replace some of his early high school record. And why shouldn't he? He wasn't given anything he hadn't earned.
The most important part of his story, in his own words, is that his life was not just blessed with talent “but people who were willing to help [him] develop that talent into something great.” When all the rhetoric is removed, it boils down to whether or not someone’s extraordinary efforts to improve oneself matters. What should really matter is just how far Oher has come, and those extraordinary efforts – tutor and replacement classes or no – are nothing less than extraordinary.
Like millions of Americans, I keep thinking "I need to eat better." And like 999,999,100 of them, I often end up failing miserably, Although you won't catch me eating at McDonald's, I do resort to take out more than I should.
But lucky, lucky me. One of my take out options these days is The Soup Peddler , a variation of an Austin classic food option started by a guy on a bike delivering soup to his friends. It grew to a a bigger delivery service, and as of a couple of months ...
<< MORE >>Oh, blog, how I’ve neglected you. It's been too many months since my last... That’s what happens when one has more things to do than time to do it. One of my resolutions this year is to try to update here once a month.
One of my friends asked me to look over an endorsement he was writing today. He wanted an objective opinion to make sure it was good enough to help the person he was endorsing on a business site, without being too flowery or personal.
He nailed it; it enough detail to demonstrate why he thinks someone should use this person’s services, without drowning it. He was very positive, because he believes in this person, and it was clearly a personal endorsement. At the same time, he didn’t diffuse his endorsement in excess – which means it’s unlikely to get lost in a sea of empty endorsements.
With all the resolutions people make at this time of the year, perhaps you might want to add one about sharing your good opinion of someone you work with. Who knows, maybe it will help them remember to return the favor.